Cass I'm not going to suger coat this and if it makes you mad I'm sorry but you don't need a freind you need a doctor and treat ment . You have (my opinion) classic depresstion denial (hubby has is often but I know thew symptoms and can change it up)
Ist you need a good pysical , then a good councialer and the most important thing a good diet . My hubby can be brought out of it just buy me fixing him all his meals and adding lots of green and yellow veggies.
You have been like this too long its becoming a devestation of your life. You need the change and soon.
Please beleive me I love you as much as every one here but I guess I get elected to kick you in the Butt and get you to realise whineing doesn't do it action and change does. Now all that said {{{{HUGS}}}}
I do care but sometimes tought love has to be applied. Sorry if I upset anyone but I have had to do this before with some family members.