Tonya my nephew was diagnosed with ADD at the age of 14, a little too late really.

Oh I do believe in it 100 per cent, I had never know a child like him before, he had social problems with other children as well, never got invites to parties etc, a lonely world at times, none of us knew he had this, and thought it was a lack of discipline and he was just so naughty.

I wish we all had learned sooner, and then we would have had a better understanding of how to deal with him.

Believe me he ran everyone of us ragged in one visit, unfortunately we did not look forward to his visits when he was young, as he was such a handful.

I used to feel sorry for him, he was always getting trouble at home, and getting punished.

ADD and ADHD children have no conscience it seems, they will continue to repeat their behaviours over and over again,it appears they never learn, my nephew was put on Ritalin for a short time, his learning abilitys improved, and his behaviour somewhat.

Most children with ADD and ADHD are very clever children.

I want to re-assure you here, my nephew is now 25 years old, he holds a computing degree, and is a very conscientious young man, very likeable, loving and a law abiding young man, so don't give up hope.

Get some support Tonya, and stop not believing, if they say Jaden has ADHD , then he has, join a support group if need be,denial of the condition will not help you or your son.

Read lots of books, and learn ways to deal with him, I have heard these children need firmer ground rules than others and you have to stick with them, but you need to learn ways to deal with his behaviour, and also to realise what works for other kids , probably will not work for a child with ADHD.

I know there is a fine line between what people see as just a bad behaved child with a lack of discipline and ADD and ADHD, but after experiencing my nephew's childhood, I know and can firmly say there is definetly such a thing.

Life was very hard on my sister and her hubby and especially his younger sister, they went through hell at times, and I am suprised their marriage survived it at all, but it did.

I hope in some way Tonya this helps you a little, to know you are not alone, and people do understand.

P.S children with ADD and ADHD do have a learning disibility really, as their concerntration span is very short, my sister got my nephew private tutoring as he got older, and I believe this is what helped him to become the high achiever he is today.
Even thought my Nephew was not supposed to be ADHD, he was always hyper active, so I do wonder about that.