I completely understand where you are coming from, I cryed more for the loss of my RB kitty Sooti than I did when my uncle Died, because I had never met him, I still cryed, but for my mothers heartache and his family my cousin who were visiting NZ at the time, so don't feel bad about not crying.

I am sorry to hear of the passing of your step grandmother, and hope comfort can be given to her family at this sad time.