Problem resolved. I was talking to my one still sane sister-in-law this weekend and we were discussing the situation since we were the only ones who could host the event and how neither of us really wanted to this year.

Then the epiphany! My parents live in a mobile home park with a club house that can be reserved. I called my dad to see if the room had been reserved yet. It wasn't so we were able to get it.

Now we'll be able to be together without the stress of having to prep one's home for ungrateful guests. Besides - this is on the folk's turf, so people will behave.

I am so relieved. I'm finally no longer dreading Christmas.