Originally posted by emily_the_spoiled
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If you do decide to host Christmas eve the BS and arguements stay at the door. And I would suggest not serving any alcohol because that will just fuel the fires (although you might want to keep a secret stash for yourself )
LOL - so true.

Last night I was telling my husband about my conversation with my brother and how my brother thinks that my inability to "forgive" that causes everybody to show up late and he (my husband) said "and I thought it was me".

I am so lucky and blessed to be married to him. It really saddens me that their bad behaviour has hurt him.

Richard - I also like your idea of just being up front and blunt and saying it like it is - "show up on time or don't show up".

sigh - well tomorrow is Thanksgiving and it should be a good day. Then I'll start tackling the whole Christmas mess.

Thanks everyone for your input.