I can understand how worried/upset/dissappointed/scared you were when you found out. I did sneak out when I was around 17. I went to be with a few friends, nothing bad, just skinny dipping in her aunts pool stupid huh?
Anyways, My parents did catch me, and when I got home, They nailed my window shut in my room, AND then got an alarm system that they set only at night, and I did not have the code. So that was the end of that. Hopefully your daughter will learn her lesson, because it really is dangerous for such a young girl to be out late at night (isnt it funny how when you are young, you dont even think twice about things like that, but when you get older you would not EVER dream of doing things like that?) And ESP abusing her parents trust. I think you did the right thing by not letting her get her Drivers permit/ that might cause more trouble than good. *HUGS* for mom; It will all work out.