Originally posted by 4 Dog Mother
I will say that my girls, Cincy's mom and Dakota's mommy are close to me now (I think) but as teenagers things are not that simple. It is hard to set and keep rules that your kids think are not fair, etc. And I think kids interpret the rules and consequences as "my mom (or dad) don't love me." It is hard for all teenagers to have a really good relationship with their parents but again the problems with your mother are not just typical parent/teenager ones.

I think Karen's suggestions are good ones. Choose someone else to be your "mom" mentor. An aunt, a friend's mother, someone who can listen and give you the hugs you need! And you know there are a lot of moms on this board who wouldn't mind being there for you when we can.
I agree 100%. At 16 my mother wanted to (rightfully so as I look back on it) throw me out of the house. I treated her with no respect. Later in life, when I got married she didn't like my husband and stopped talking to me. She even moved and didn't tell my sister (who was away at college) or I. But as time went on (and I didn't speak to her for 6 years... ) I grew and she grew and we ended up in a much better spot. She still had issues up to her passing, but I learned to overlook them and deal with the facts and her on a one to one basis. It wasn't easy and I regret those 6 years, but they made me stronger and able to handle much more in my life.

You have received hugs and support from many on this site - know that you are loved by folks here....and we are all around to listen and help if needed.....