No, I don't think it's inappropriate or odd. But, I would always ask about his wife, wish his wife well, etc. I'd would also make sure to constantly mention how happy you and your husband are. And if you guys start sending cards (birthday, Christmas, etc.), I suggest you address them to Mr. and Mrs X. That way his wife doesn't start to feel that something is "off". He's your friend and the last thing you want is to cause problems in his marriage (or yours). Also don't complain about your husband to him and if he wants to criticise his wife, ask him to stop because you don't want to hear about it.
When I was 18, I started working with a man who was 32 years older than myself. We became good friends. He was married (he said they were very happy). He was always trying to fix me up with a nice guy (his son and his son's friends). He was always there to let me cry on his shoulder when it didn't work out. When I bought a car, he co-signed for me. This was a MAJOR problem for his wife. She felt that he was too emotionally involved with me. They eventually separated and divorced. 11 years after we met, we married and have been very happy for 15 years. So, all I'm saying, is just be careful to not get too emotionally dependent on each other. There's nothing wrong with that unless it causes problems with his wife or your husband.
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