hmmm...Robyn, (right name yes??) how about doing a petfinders search in your zipcode and reading about some of the available cats. I know in our area - most have a pretty good description of the cat's personality - especially those who are kept in foster homes. In my opinion - one from a foster home would be ideal because there is less change of upper respiratory infection and the foster mom can also answer any of your questions about the kitty. Another plus about a slightly older cat is that they are probably already fixed and have their shots and so less expense. You may even find one that is declawed if that is important to your nan and grandpa. Cats are still kittens until they are a year old and many still are kittenish and playful far beyond that but yes, they will be more settled. I bet you can find one that is a lap-baby for your grandpa - just keep looking!! That will be such fun and comfort for him! I know he will will love the companionship