Kobe Bryant

[guster girl]

I know someone who went through a rape, and, she reported him, and, he was charged with it. But, she actually had sex with a guy she'd known for awhile as soon as she could. I think it's definitely different with every person. She said it made her feel safe to be in the arms of someone that wasn't forcing her. I don't know, though, it's not even something I've tried to figure out. I think he's an a**hole just for cheating on his wife. I know that a lot of the pro athletes do, and, a lot of the women are ok with it, but, it's not something I'll ever agree with. I'm not saying he's not a great basketball player and that I don't enjoy watching him on the court, because I keep the two completely separate. I just think his character off the court is questionable.

[sirrahbed]

Originally posted by Catsnclay


As for running scared, wouldn't you be?

Absolutely! My heart is with this victim. I agree she has already been tried. I HATE that the rape shield has been misused - this puts rape victims back decades. I do not know if she is inocent or not, but I still feel for her.

I also do not think it is unusual for her to run to the safety of another man, a safe and loving man, after a rape. As for not reporting right away - well, most are NEVER reported at all! Any victim advocate can tell you this is a realistic response. I have been a victim of sexual abuse myself and the things I did initially were NOT very logical but they were things I did to feel back in control. I also work as an advocate for clergy sexual abuse victims. These victims generally do one of two things: they become celebate or promiscuous. The married victims sometimes seek out frantic sex from their husbands while unable to feel anything but numbness. One third commit suicide. It is very hard to understand the psychology of a victim unless you have been there. I also understand that this young woman was troubled to start with. My heart aches for her.

It also makes me sick to see folks pamper these over-paid, whiny mulit-millionaires. I hope she survives her civil suit. A civil suit is HELL. I have been there too and cannot fathom how anyone would ever consider them frivolous or worth ANY amount of money.