In some cases it seems to be character as well. Our Tigris didn't ahve one bad experience in his life. He was born one of four in a multi cat household, stayed with his devoted mom until he was 12 weeks old and came to us- where he is spoiled rotten.

However every loud sound or unexpected movement scares him. The day before yesterday he wanted to join me on the couch for some TV. I just wanted to take the remote from under him before he settled down- and that scared him so much that he dashed off taking my hand as a starting platform: The rebound of a 13 lb cat felt like a hammer on my hand

Filou is the same situation. He stayed with his cat mom until 16 weeks. The bf of her owner was in love with him- he was the first pawpaw who shared rolls with cream cheese with Filou And still you can touch Filou always with your nose- but never with your hand. He hisses at all my friends who tell him how cute he is ( ask Sara and only allows us to pet him- but not when we want, only when he wants.......

However both of my guys are more relaxed about almost everything than they used to be. So I hope Emma will come around a little more.

We have to love them as they are....