Have you ever had a distastrous holiday...

[Tonya]

Ok, last story...I even have pictures for this one. lol.

I have to give a little background first. I have a circle of friends, Jessica, Tina, and myself. We have been bestfriends since I moved to town in the 8th grade. There is a girl, Amanda, who was in their click since Kindergarten. Amanda hated me from the start. She was real serious, negative and motherly. I was to cheery, spontaneous, and positive for her. We didn't fight, but we didn't like eachother much. She moved away our freshman year, so we were never close.

March 2003, My best friend was going to be getting married in Oahu. At first I wasn't going to go because at the time, Jaden was having alot of issues. (They were saying that he was autistic and whatnot.) But, I decided to go and leave Jaden with my parents. (Mike was working alot of hours at the time.)

I found out Amanda was going. No one had seen Amanda in about 5-6 years. I remembered how we got didn't get along in the 8th grade...but hey, we were 24 years old now...I'm sure we'll get along just fine now.

So, we all met at the San Fransisco Airport. So, we all start off on our trip on a pretty good start. We ordered cocktails on the plane and were laughing and swapping stories.

Then, Amanda casually mentioned that she belongs to these clubs and she goes with her boyfriend. Because of the young ones at PT, I can't go into detail, but Amanda lives in San Fransisco, and they have some pretty gross, illegal, and immoral ummm clubs there. (No offense to those of you who belong to these groups ) And apparently, this stuff is no big deal to her. So, Jessica and I are kind of thinking "Whoa..." But, trying to be halfway polite. All I nicely said was "Wow, I couldn't bring myself to do such a thing." And she started screaming at me about how I am to close minded and this and that. So, I appologized and thought "Gosh, this chick is wierd." Then later on I find out that Amanda's boyfriend is 63 years old. She's 25, with a 63 year old boyfriend who *cough* likes to dress up like a woman and go to these *cough* clubs with her. Wow. So, okay, a little awkward of a start.

Then, Jessica announces that she only brought $50 to spend the whole week. I'd already paid for her flight, Tina (the bride) had paid for our stay, but still....we had five days there! And Jessica was the maid of honor, she can't be running around Hawaii without money. I didn't want her to be embarrassed so I gave her $300.

So, we get to Oahu and go to rent a car. I find out that I can't rent one because I was two weeks from my 25th birthday and you have to be 25. Amanda was already getting her own rental car, so I offered to pay for it if she'd give us a ride here and there. Not to inconvienient, we're staying in the same place and going to the same places. It was a bummer, but no big deal. At least to me...

So, we get into the car, Amanda is driving and we get a little lost. Who cares? Were in OAHU! I smile and go "Look, wild boars!" (There were some boars on the side of the road." She slammed on the breaks in the rain right on the freeway, pulled over and goes "Is everything in life a game to you, Tonya? We're f#@ing lost! And you're excited over some stupid pigs! You've got to be the stupidest person I have ever known." I replied, "OH, I am sorry, I'll try to be a little more upset."

Well, the whole trip was totally neurotic. Amanda had to take pills for every occasion. Apparently, she had all sorts of mental disorders. We were all sharing a room at the little bed and breakfast. She locked us out more then once because "we were up to late". She flipped out and started screaming at me because I used her shampoo. (Jessica had taken mine, and I didn't notice until I was already in the shower.) I can go on and on and on, but I'll just name the major things...

We were on our way back to the room from the beach. Amanda was driving and fully clothed, the rest of us only had swimsuits on. She angrily pulls into the Albertson's parking lot and says to me "Tonya, go get ice." Now, this is a grocery store in a residential area, I wasn't about to go walking in there in a bikini. I handed her money, and nicely asked her to go buy it since she was dressed. So, she gets out of the car, slams the door so hard we thought it was going to fall off the hinges. When she came back, she goes "Was that so f#$@ing difficult!?" and swung the ice bag like a baseball bat, hitting me in the face with it. My lip was bleeding, and I was livid. By then, after all she'd put me through, I was ready to fight. But, I (barely) got in the car and shut up because I didn't want to ruin Tina's wedding.

After Tina's wedding, at dinner, after a few drinks, Amanda announced to everyone "Tonya and I never were close friends. I never really liked her. To be honest, I still can't stand her." WTF am I supposed to say to that? Tina's whole family was there. The room totally got quiet...Boy was that an awkward silence.

Amanda wound up flipping out and leaving a day or two early. I was relieved to know after she left that everyone thought she was psycho and that she had no reason to be so hard on me. I was relieved because I was kind of wondering if she truly was such a freak, or was something wrong with me. I've always considered myself an easy going person, so it was hard for me to understand why she hated me so much.

On the last night, we went out....Jessica was out of money, so I told her I'd put everything on my card, she got drunk and bought drinks for the entire bar more then once. My tab was $360. We lost Jessica for hours, she'd wandered off and gotten lost with some guy.

Oh, and to top of all that stuff, a few hours before Tina's wedding, I am on the beach, and I get a phone call from my parents. The child protective services had taken my son from school that day. His school was evil, so I don't know what the story really is, but he had some bruises on his shins from dirtbike riding. Apparently, the teacher said that she asked him where they came from and he said "My mommy, she beats me all the time." So, of course, I was in hysterics. I was trying to find a flight home, but then my parents called back and said that everything was straightened out. They decided Jaden wasn't abused. But my phone continued to ring all week with family and friends telling me that Child Protective Services had interviewed them. I was so freaked out.

So, that was my trip. Two weeks later, Mike and I returned for my birthday...that second trip was wonderful. And now, pictures, so you can put faces with names...

This is the pic from Tina's bridal shower...From left to right, Jessica, Myself (don't laugh at how tall I am), Amanda the Freak, and Tina...



The wedding, I'm on the left side of the bride, Amanda is on the right. I am not as happy as I may look in this picture...