Please don't be "sorry for venting..." - this is so awfully RUDE of him!!! Not only is it rude, but he is taking advantage of being able to say this to you when you are helpless and in need of help which is twice as bad!! I am also very sad that your mom did not defend and support you That must have felt even worse than what he did ((((((Kirsten))))) I am completely with you on this! That behavior is so disrespectful and mean of him. I hope he does stay home from now on! He is bad for YOUR health!!
It is sad to me that people do not understand that Luna and Lily ARE your children. I don't see why this is so hard to understand. Would they leave the door open for a toddler child? What is the difference in this case? They are not respecting your feelings at all and I know that hurts.