THANK YOU Karen, my basic instincts told me this is what I should do, but one of the other mother's is not telling her child, and it confused me, I mean its not fair, when the little girl is gone, my daughter will then get an awful shock, and wonder why i did not let her know, but its very difficult, finding the right words, I am worried she will get a shock when she sees her tonight, as she is very ill, it may frighten her.