I have to say that both my husband and I give more attention to Jack. He's the one that always wants and craves most of our attention. He'll follow you around, jump up in your lap, give you headbumpies and stick his nose in your face to get attention. And he loves to be held. Ali, on the other hand, wants pets and loving on her terms...she has to come to you and not the other way around. If you try to love on her without her wanting it, she gets angry and growls and hisses. Ali is a sweetheart, don't get me wrong, but only when she wants to be.