KayAnn, his grandmother could request the conference. I think that both sides should present their side of the story. I would be interested in what her explanation would be.

Please don't misunderstand, I am much more for free expression than any of the other teachers at our school. I just don't care for men wearing makeup, but, whatever blows your hair back...they're not there to please me....they need to make themselves comfortable.

I would probably take your friend aside and give him the options that have been presented here and see what HE thinks. Maybe you could offer to go as moral support and ask to speak to the principal (who would be her boss).