That's terrible, terrible news

I know what it's like, my parents divorced when I was eight, and my Mum divorced my stepdad (whom I am close to) when I was fourteen.

I know that you'd be feeling awful right now, wondering if maybe it's your fault, raging at your Mum for not trying harder, feeling a little bit rejected that your parents don't love you enough to stay together and a million more weird and painful emotions. These are all normal, by the way, let them out and you'll start to feel some relief soon.

When you are really truthful with yourself you will probably realise that things has probably being building up to this conclusion, even if you chose to ignore it. As far as your Mum is concerned, what she is doing is sensible. Maybe she wants to try and save the marriage. My parents tried the separation thing ... and it didn't work, but at least they tried everything they could. (Be prepared for this eventuality)

Even if your folks are not successful in saving the marriage and recovering their feelings for each other, maybe it is because both of your parents will be happier apart in time to come. I know mine were. And my brother and I would have been miserable living under the same roof as an unhappy marriage.

If you ever need anyone to talk to, pm me any time.