Of course you are scared and angry that your Mom is taking a break! Very natural reactions.

Having been there and done that what I can tell you is if your Mom is taking a break -- then she really needs this time. Much better for your Mom to have time to really think things through because that will enable her to be a better Mom. If she is unhappy and unsure then it will affect her ability to care for you and Jake.

Give your Mom a break -- and your Dad too. Don't blame either one because without all the facts you could jump to the wrong conclusions!

When a couple like your Mom & Dad are in this situation (even if your Dad was not prepared for this) it means it is best for your parents to take the time to evaluate their lives as individuals, as parents and as a couple. Only after much thought and reflection can they come to a decision which is best for your family.

Try to keep communication open at all times with both of your parents. Communication means when either of your parents expresses their feelings, you listen very carefully. You digest what has been said. This gives you time to learn what your feelings/reactions truly are BEFORE you then tell either or both parents how you feel, thus enabling you to maintain good relations with both parents -- they love you and want what is best for everyone.

Working at keeping relationships strong and the lines of communication open during this break period is a valuable tool. It enables you to grow as a person and to learn who your parents are as individual beings which is good.

Keep in mind that your parents are the ones who make the decision to remain together or not. As a child your goal should be to maintain a strong and loving bond with both parents. Remember to not play one parent against the other. This causes great harm to every family member. I know this because I've been there and done that.

Don't allow yourself to fall into that trap! It can only bring great pain to you down the road. Be smart; listen to us who've already made these mistakes. We don't want you to be any more hurt, frightened or angry than you are now. That is why all of us respond to your cry for help.

Hang in, be strong, be fair, and most of all be loving and respectful to both of your parents -- don't take sides. This issue is for them to work through. We're rooting for you & your family.