Hi Pam. I too have a ragdoll with an attitude. She was going to be put to sleep by her previous owner, so when I got her she was not a kitten. The lady who owned her before said that she was very shy as well and did not come out when she had company. I do have to say though that she has never ever been aggressive with my children. Patience, patience, patience has made her a very wonderful member of our home. Good Luck!