WOW!!! SP- I am sorry to hear of such a disappointing situation at this time of your life. I can't remember how old you are, if I ever knew??? But, your friend sounds VERY young. I have been in two weddings, and declined 2 b/c of financial constraints. The two that I was in were an honor, in my opinion. Paid back? Good lord. Now that you two are to be married (your SO, not the girl), are you expected to give 2 times as nice of a Christmas/Birthday gift, too?


If I had to imagine, I 'bet' this isn't the first time you have experienced this type of conduct with her...but, that before it wasn't on such a significant matter that you were upset by it. I truly don't believe people all of a sudden become something they aren't. (I had this similar discussion with an office mate that is getting married, and her best friend is carrying on, too.)

I don't know that I could see 'past' such conduct, from someone that is supposedly your closest friend. If an honest email from you, asking that this be addressed, put aside, etc., isn't responded to appropriately, I would re-think my plans. Why should your world be turned upside down by someone that isn't willing to go the extra mile for you?

P.S. In case you can't tell, I subscribe to the Dr. Phil line of thinking in relationships...lose the baloney, get right to it, and if it isn't working, after you have checked yourself, get rid of it.