She's unmarried and in graduate school, so she's too busy with that to deal with being in any sort of a romantic relationship at the moment. She may be lonely, but she isn't preoccupied with it...

As for my fiance - she's known him longer than I have. We're all good friends. Whenever she's home from Florida, we're like the 3 musketeers.

We're usually right on par with everything - our morals, our thoughts and beliefs, our tastes... but I have absolutely NO idea where she's coming from in this case. It's so unlike her. It got to the point where Josh wrote us both an e-mail trying to persuade us to calm down. None of our other fights/arguments have ever been so bad that Josh (or anyone else, for that matter) felt that an intervention was needed.

Thanks for your thoughts. I'm anxious to see what everyone has to say.

2kitties: Thanks, I may take you up on that. We tell each other everything and she hasn't told me that anything in her personal life is horrible, so I have no idea why she's acting like that. One of my other girls said that since she is putting money in to this (for her dress and shoes, a plane ticket home, shower stuff, etc.) that she feels she should be paid back. The thing is, I *am* planning on getting HER an additional gift since she's been like my sister for the last 15 years. She knows this, and says that it's not about her, that no one would like that present after spending so much time and money on me over the next six months. My feelings on THAT is that everyone had the opportunity to say "no thank you" when I asked them to be in it. I understand that being in weddings can add up, but I never thought that in addition to everything else I'm paying for, I had to spend hundreds on my bridesmaids to thank them for being my friend. I thought asking them to stand up for me was special enough.