Tonya ~

Two thoughts...

GO to the hospital during visiting hours and talk to either a Chaplain or the Charge Nurse for his room. Ask them to announce to his wife that you are there and would like to speak to her (outside of his room). She'll hopefully come out and then you can explain your closeness to your "Other Dad" and ask if SHE thinks a quick visit would be OK. She might even want to ask "Dad" if he's up to it.
Then do whatever they suggest.

IF they suggest a visit is not appropriate;
ask if you could
step into the room (and possibly deliver a personal note),
the next time he goes to sleep...
He'll feel you presence even if you don't speak...

From personal experience -
Chaplains and Charge Nurses can bend the heck out of
*hospital rules* when they see a need to do so.
(A midnight visit, when he's asleep and the family isn't there,
CAN be arranged... you just have to talk to the right folks.)

And as difficult as it may be for you...
Try to attend calling hours if or when that time comes.
It's never too late to say I Love You and Goodbye.



/s/ Phred