You all have been very helpful to me. You have giving me some good things to think about.
The main thing is, I belive I will stay here for X-Mas and Thanksgiving and not have any guilt about it. I was questioning if I was being selfish by not going but your replays have told me maybe this time selfish is OK.
I am going to see about my Father going up there for X-Mas and spend time with his grandchildren but it will be his choice to make.
I'm so sorry that some of you also have Family problems too. Although it does make it some how easier knowing that I'm not the only one that has been hurt by a family member. Life was so much easier when we where young and I can't help missing those days.
moosmom, your story is in a way what has brough me to this point of tring to work things out. My father is getting up there in years and I can see he might not be around for many more years. That's my fear with this whole thing, that after my father is gone, my family will be gone, in a way too. They will be no need for us to ever stay in contact after his death and we will slowly become just memories to each other. I don't want that but I guess I have to except the fact that without my brother wanting a connection there is really nothing I can do, but be there if he changes his mind. What hurt the most is I might not ever be able to be a aunt to his children and one day they will forget that there even was a Aunt Libby. I just hope that his children don't driff apart when they get older too. What would he tell his Children....that it's OK, I did it too. I can't see a Father telling his children it's ok not to care about your brother or sister.
Oh well.....life goes on for me.
Thanks again
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