Originally posted by KYS
...If you do not want to call your brother at this point,
I would write all your thoughts down in a letter and
mail it to him. ...
Basically I agree with KYS, but I'd hold the letter prayerfully for at least 24 hours and re-read it again before sending it. It sounds like your brother is blocking his feelings and an emotional appeal from you wouldn't register effectively.

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