I also agree with PayItForward.

If you do not want to call your brother at this point,
I would write all your thoughts down in a letter and
mail it to him.
I think this will be good therapy for you too.
Whether you get a responce or not from him,
at least you would have gotten it off your chest and
the ball is now back in his court.

As for Christmas, if your brother does not
respond, I agree with PIF.. just have a normal
Christmas at home with your loving family.

Karen ((0u0))