Of course I only know your side, but your brother sounds like an ass. I wouldn’t sacrifice my happiness or emotional well being for his Xmas for anything in the world. It sounds like he resents you for something or has some other unresolved issue that he’s not being upfront about. It’s ultimately your decision alone to make, but I agree with your Dad and not your husband. I don’t think I’d agree to the “cut ties” thing, but I would stand up for myself and my feelings. I personally would confront him and try to find out what the problem really is, but you may not be ready for that or even want to know. It doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship and it won’t be until he deals with whatever’s going on with him.

Were you ever close? What about before your Mother passed away?

I hope everything works out and you do what’s best for you.