Thanks guys.

I have made sure that Ally doesn't see me with Connor at all. She has also been getting even MORE spoiled than usual (IF that's possible)...........sleeping in the bed with me is NOT usually allowed, but I am making a few exceptions!

Ally hasn't really bothered too much with catnip up till now. I bought her a cushion at a craft fair this weekend - it zips open so you can sprinkle catnip inside - and she ripped it to shreds, but once she had all the stuffing out of it, she seemed to lose interest. She also doesn't seem to get "goofy" like some other cats do when they have catnip.

I guess I will just take things slowly - better to spend more time on the intro's now, rather that deal with problems later!