My parents are always on my back, and even object against my friends without getting to know them just because they look like they might be a smoking druggy or something..I can't dye my hair until I'm 14. Even then it has to be natural colors. I'm not aloud to get my belly button pierced til I'm 15, and no cell phone until 15 either. I don't know what they're holding back on..
I'm a mom and I take a bit of offense at how you describe your parents. You're saying that they are going to allow you things at 15 and 14 that I can't imagine. My daughter is in 7th grade. She will not be dyeing her hair, getting extra piercings (she has one hole in each ear now), nor will she get any tattoos while she is under my roof and having her expenses paid by me. She knows this. She does have a cell phone, but it was provided by her father, and he pays for it. He wants her to be able to call him when she is not here at home. It is used for that purpose only. She will dress appropriately at all times. That's just the way it is. She doesn't resent me for it, just understands the rules. She gets to do a lot of things, have lots of things (as much as I can afford), she gets good grades, she works hard and is a good girl, not a goody two shoes type, but an obedient, nice girl. I hope that it will continue to be that way.

I meet the parents of her friends and I meet her friends. I encourage her to have them here in our home. I don't allow her to go off places without adult supervision most of the time. There is just too much scary stuff out there to allow that. In time, I will loosen up on that, but for now, it is my duty to protect her, not smother, but to make sure she is safe. I don't think that she would say that I'm unreasonable. She knows my expectations and she doesn't argue with me. Her father, although we are no longer married, reinforces what I say. I'm just wondering if you truly try to see it from your parent's point of view and the fact that they may be looking out for your longterm best interest?