If I may Jen, just one question, if you could answer for me.
Since your friend is a vet tech/receptionist, she obviously is aware of the horrendous pain that a kitty goes through with declawing. Why is she so quick to have them delawed? From what I read that you posted, it's like it's not an option with her, she just automatically has them declawed. Is it cause she has so many of them that she doesn't have the time to train them not to claw the furniture? Oops sorry, that's 2 questions. I'm just curious as to why she is so quick to have them delawed.

As others have said, a good life is better than no life and it doesn't make your friend a bad person.