Originally posted by Chinadoll

I love my mother dearly, she's one of my best friends. But most times we have to agree to disagree.

More about me than you probably wanted to know. Don't know what possessed me to spill all that other than work is slow right now.


spill what?

don't worry about things....

i forgot to mention......

when you feel the heat going up, change the subject...

"Mom, let's not discuss this right now, let's talk about something else......it can wait."

be firm, be nice and go on to the next.....

the key is to make the other person see that you will not engage them in BS.... as you keep doing that the person HAS to take it down a notch because you

won't take them on
argue with them
get them ticked off

they will learn that you have a 'cutoff point' and may just try to be nice in order to get their point of view heard. what you are doing is making that person know that when the conversation
gets heated you won't play.

some people live to argue.....the point is to converse-not let a subject turn into an 'i hate you fest'

one other point.....we all know 'what is good for us'...and won't take any kind of advice from people....

rule one: When someone gives you advice, DO NOT CHALLENGE them, say, "gee i never thought about it that way" and go on your way.....

rule two: when you go on your own way and things blow up, be prepared to do two things, go back and say, 'hey you were right!'
or don't ever mention what you did, how it went wrong or call them for help..

you'll get it tossed back in your face...be prepared to fail....
and be prepared to eat crow. think long and hard about 'what's good for you'....if life is kind you'll get a second chance!

and remember-SMILE.