I do think that on some level she probably knew what would happen.

HOWEVER, take it from someone who has been there: denial is a powerful thing. It can make you truly believe that nothing at all is going to happen, when all the facts and logical paths of thinking scream "LOOK OUT, YOU'RE ABOUT TO DO SOMTHING STUPID!".

Then there's the "I can stop it whenever I want" mentality, which seems likely to me.

Richard: I agree with you 100%.

As for his wife..I can honestly say that I think she may not even have guessed. Some women are totally blind to their man's faults, no matter how glaringly obvious. Trust me, I spent two years with someone who couldn't seem to remember the meaning of the word 'monogamy' for more than a few weeks. Despite it being crystal clear to -everyone- else, I never believed a word of it. (I'm not so gullible anymore BTW)

So anyways...yeah. I sympathize with everyone involved, and I hope it gets worked out. Without actually being involved I can't make a for sure vote, but it sounds to me like he should be acquitted.