Originally posted by RICHARD
here's a twist on that piece of advice.

see her point of view, amazing how things look from the other side of the arguement.

don't be afraid to knuckle under. losing an arguement isn't the end of the world. sometimes sticking to your guns just shows how stubborn and unwilling to 'see the other side' a person can be.

DO NOT BE afraid to come back to mom and tell her she was right.
better yet, don't talk to her about it, mope and just be a silly snot about the whole thing. I GUARANTEE there will be a day when mom is not around to argue with. you'll sit by the phone crying and carrying on-and thinking about all the times you wanted to be right so badly- and thinking about how it would be nice to share it with her.

the fastest way to disarm a person is to say,
Hey, maybe you are right!
I'm wrong.
I'm sorry.

age and experience will always overwhelm
youth and exuberance.

arguing takes two people......one, when you refuse to participate...
it become a conversation again....
You have a very valid point. With our situation, it was more one sided. I'd always give in to her. Always put what she wanted and thought was best first and ignored what was right for me. It would be so nice if she would for once listen to my side without just dismissing it as foolishness and that I don't know any better because I'm young.

Not that I'm saying I'm always right. And yes, I have swallowed my pride quite a few times when I've gotten past the anger and conceded. Just that after awhile it's tiring of always being open to other person's point of view when they are never open to yours. Hard to compromise when the other person refuses to ever compromise. The only time my Mother ever conceded a point was after a year of not talking to each other because I did the unthinkable and moved out at 19. We were finally starting to repair our relationship and she told me that moving out was probably the best thing I could have ever done for myself.

I love my mother dearly, she's one of my best friends. But most times we have to agree to disagree.

More about me than you probably wanted to know. Don't know what possessed me to spill all that other than work is slow right now.