I think it is hard when you are passionate about something, like pets, to deal with those that aren't passionate. Our feelings are ultra sensitive, and theirs are not sensitive. So, it isn't like you are starting at 0 and getting to 5. You are starting at -5 and getting to 5- a broader range.

Do what is in your heart. I am sure you can look at each person that is critical and think of something they do that you don't agree with. I guess I do wonder why one would subject themselves to people who make uncaring remarks. I don't say to excommunicate your entire family based on one errant comment about your cats...but, continual comments? Family, friends, co-workers,etc., aren't people that care about you if they continuously make uncaring remarks about ANYTHING you are passionate about. To me, those are toxic people. Let them be. I can't imagine making disparaging commments to someone I love about one of their passions. An offhand comment? One made in anger? One made without thinking? Of course, we all make mistakes. But, that doesn't seem to be what you write of.

Maybe, Kirsten, instead of talking/listening to these people, and becoming upset, you might think about why you are subjecting yourself to this type of behavior, and make some positive change. You can't keep doing the same thing and expect different results. I am not meaning this meanly. But, to know these people upset you, and it relates to kitties, upsets me.