Ok... I did it. I e-mailed my friend a nice, friendly e-mail and just told her how much of a friend she is and how I feel I can say anything to her and how I needed to get this off my chest.
I attached the http://www.declawing.com/ link.
I hope she understands. She IS a very open minded person so I think we'll be ok. I Hope!
Paws crossed - claws and all!