We had some friends decide they wanted to get a kitten. I was thrilled that another cat would have a home. Until....he said they would declaw it so it wouldn't wreak their furnature!!! I about fell out of my chair and explained why NOT to do that. It went in one ear and out the other. The only thing that worked (and actually discouraged them to get a cat...thank goodness!) was this website: www.declawing.com

Its an amazing website that is hugely factual and is not gross. They don't condemn those that choose to do it, but sternly talk about all the horrible draw backs of declawing.

Email your friend in a very nice and caring manner. Explain that the only reason you are upset/don't agree with her is because you know what effects the cat could have and that you don't want her to be unhappy with her cat. You can even offer to BUY their soft paws and put them on yourself....

Gosh, I hope and pray she doesn't declaw that poor cat.

A side note: I used the above link to give a speech in my Toastmasters club about declawing. EVERY single person that had cats had no clue how extensive and horrible the surgery is. That site is wonderful. I hope it helps your friend and her precious kitty.