i had to do some pursuading here too to get my cats, first ash, and because of my allergy, my husband was not keen, and then sooty, well lexie was not hard, as he saw how broken-hearted i was when he died, but he was worried if anything happens to lexie how i will be, but thats the risk you have to take, i would have more but financially thats all we can afford, sometimes its a struggle , but well worth it. good luck, i sending positive vibes over there, so your partner can feel them, and say YES YES YES lol