I really respect your decision. I can't imagine how hard it would be to bond with the little guy, only to realize that he is really better somewhere else.

A few months back, my husband's aunt got a new kitty to be a friend for her cat, and her poor cat just went into hysterics. She found a new home for the new cat and has accepted the fact that her cat needs to be an only cat. Some just do.

I hope that with your guidance, that Oliver finds a new home where he will be happy and that you find more peace and tranquility for the rest of your fur-babies.