Thank you all for the kind words. It really helps with all the things I am going through right now. There may be hope that he would only lose one leg....my dad always tells me the worst of it so I will be looking on the bright side of things until I speak to his doctor, which should be this weekend.


What really saddens me is that my father has only seen my son Dylan (14 months and now walking BTW, all the time now! ) once in all the time Dylan has been around. I just dreamed of my father playing with him etc.


My dad is really strong, he has so many problems but he deals with everything the best he can. He bought me a real pearl necklace for Christmas. Anyways, that was off topic...

Right now he HAS to move before his surgery because he lives in a trailor no smaller than our bedroom. *sigh* He can't work because he is constantly having surgeries on his back etc.

I love my dad very much and I would do anything for him! We were thinking of buying a house for ourselves anyway, but now this just pushes the time limit back. There is not a date yet set for the surgery but I will let you all know when I find out.

I think I may be able to claim him as a dependent on taxes yes, if I take care of him? I think the state also offers money when you need to care for a family member. Either way, he has made it clear that after he is fully recovered he wants to look for an apartment for himself, which I am sure we could find one...if they have wheelchair access etc.

Thanks ChrisH for the info as I didn't even realize that! Lut- I won't be going anywhere soon, lol. I LOVE this place.

Souraya- I would do anything for my father or anyone in my family. It is very sad there are people out there not willing to do this. I would want my kids to take care of me, hopefully they will. My brother refuses to have anything to do with it, and personally he cares he is just not mature or wise enough (even though 26) to take on that responsibility. And frankly, I don't trust him....long story. Plus he has a son and other things, never cleans his house so I wouldn't want my father living there. He can come here with me, hehe.

My dad has expressed his wishes on obtaining a dog. So I was thinking maybe we can get him a wheelchair dog if they have thouse? Does anyone know how we could go about doing this? I know there is Dogs for the Death, but is there any for wheelchair confined people? Plus he has strokes a lot and I know some dogs are trained to know when one is about to happen, they can sense it. Do you think this is a good idea? I know he wants a dog, and it would put me at ease!