Retired queen and my first experience of "in heat". AND LAST!!

[Captain Janeway]

Day 7. Thanks for talking me off the ledge. Panic. Yes, I've got a bit of that, along with shock and awe. Great to know that she can be spayed at the first possible moment, no matter her "condition." As I've watched this extreme mating behavior unfold, I'm still amazed at the intensity. This maybe is another question for another thread, but my question is: can you think of any other species that puts the female in such a frantically intensity of desire to be mated and for such a long period (7-15 days)? It's really easy to understand how almost every unspayed female as early as for months old would NOT have kittens. And we know the math.

[Karen]

Day 7. Thanks for talking me off the ledge. Panic. Yes, I've got a bit of that, along with shock and awe. Great to know that she can be spayed at the first possible moment, no matter her "condition." As I've watched this extreme mating behavior unfold, I'm still amazed at the intensity. This maybe is another question for another thread, but my question is: can you think of any other species that puts the female in such a frantically intensity of desire to be mated and for such a long period (7-15 days)? It's really easy to understand how almost every unspayed female as early as for months old would NOT have kittens. And we know the math.

Hang in there, you can get through this!

[Captain Janeway]

Update: Well, she's out of heat. However, my (early) neutered 5 year old now knows about sex. I never ever wanted him to even feel the urge, but I guess her incessant calling and posturing finally kicked in that instinct. Towards the end of her heat, I found them lying next to each other and he had thrown his arm her around her shoulders (think shy boy in theater with girl and managed to get his arm around her shoulders. Yes!) How cute. They're friends. Not long after find him straddling her and biting her neck. I separated them, but he's still doing it. This morning I thought I'd ignore it, but about 5 minutes later he's still at it. Any idea if he'll forget this behavior, especially once she's spayed? I wish she'd fight back, but she just lays there. And she's bald, so he's hanging onto just a fold of skin and I'm afraid the skin will get irritated. I'm not sure how often she's been bred, but her chip has migrated to over her shoulder and I can understand why that may be. Run! Also, I'm worried he'll start spraying. What's a mother to do!

[cats4ever]

I'm glad that your kitty is out of heat.
Your male cat doesn't have any testosterone left in his body. It went away after he was neutered.
So his behavior is not sexual in nature. There is a whole array of reasons why he is doing it.
I found another article for you that might be helpful.
I have a boy who used to do it every time he sat in my lap. As soon as he started, I would tell him "no", and sat him on the floor. It took a while, but eventually he stopped this behavior.

https://www.ukpets.com/blog/neutered...ns-it-happens/

[Captain Janeway]

Once again, the perfect helpful article. Sounds like the best way is to notice when he starts and say no, and distract him. It is so fascinating to see behaviors just pop up out of nowhere. He's never seen that and as it says he has no sex hormones to drive him. I remember how I was amazed when a friend's Lab gave birth (her first and an only dog) how she knew just what to do at birth and then how to move it around from spot to spot. Pure inborn instinct, no aunts or mom dog to show how it's done. Funny that this not the case with human mom's and their first. Thanks again!

[Captain Janeway]

Update: Nikita, my sweet little boy, seems to only occasionally indulge in "assaulting" his new sister. Elektra is still out of heat, but it's been two weeks, so it will probably be soon. Last checkup last Monday the rash still evident, so started two weeks on Orbax. Results came back with staphyloccus simulans and a baccilus, so tomorrow she goes to see the kitty dermatologist. Hope we can get to the bottom of this and getting her clear so she can be spayed.

[cats4ever]

I'm sorry to hear that Elektra's skin infection is still present.
Do you know if she has been tested for FIV (Feline Immunodeficiency Virus) and FeLV (Feline Leukemia Virus)? They weaken the immune system, and can prevent healing.