I need to vent

[Karen]

Thank you. Yes, I always try to be myself and if I feed off his negativity then I'm just as bad as him, right?


You are so right about how elderly men are. The owner of the company I work for is 75 and sometimes he reminds me so much of my dad. Even though my dad is 5 years younger.

I knew my pet talk family would understand.

My Dad never got cranky, and he lived to be 83. He never lost his basic demeanor, he might have a bad moment now and then, when he'd err on the side of honesty rather than being polite, but that was usually when he was very sick, and dealing with daft folks.

In general, i have found that old age tends to distill a person's basic personality in many cases - they become more extreme examples of what they always were.

[Taz_Zoee]

My Dad never got cranky, and he lived to be 83. He never lost his basic demeanor, he might have a bad moment now and then, when he'd err on the side of honesty rather than being polite, but that was usually when he was very sick, and dealing with daft folks.

In general, i have found that old age tends to distill a person's basic personality in many cases - they become more extreme examples of what they always were.

This is true. While I never met my dads father, I believe he is exactly like him. And he wasn't very fond of his father either. His dad always talked down to him, never used his name (and he's a junior), only called him Shorty or Stupid. So I think my dad tried very hard to not be like him while we were growing up. And now his true colors are shining through.

[Louie and me]

My father died when I was 10 and was in the navy so I didn't really know him well. Now I am married to a person with Borderline Personality Disorder. Can't begin to tell you what chaos living with someone with that condition means. I just have to constantly remind myself that his reality is because of his condition and I am not the wicked person he thinks I am. Of course he also sometimes thinks I am like Mother Teresa. Depends on the day - or the hour.
Hard as it is - always try to be true to yourself. Keep your head high.

[mon]

While I know family is blood and all, I have a mother with narcissistic personality disorder. Sometimes you need to cut people out of your life. Even your own mom. That is hard but not impossible. It can save your health and your sanity. Well, I'm always kinda teetering on the brink

[mon]

Oh ya, I haven't spoken to her for over 4 yrs. now and it was best decision that I ever made. Changed my whole life for the better. Occasionly she will try to contact me and screw me over but I never answer the phone or call her back if she leaves a message. She is a rotten human being and I do not care why. Google the
Dickhead song. You simply must, I'm fairly sure that will make you feel better.

[mon]

Please don't get me wrong, vile as my mother is and always will be, deep down I love her and always will. That Dickhead song by Miles just makes me laugh, lightens the load a tad. She is a B*tch to the core. Of that I am certain. There a few thing I know for sure. That I know

[mon]

Just keepin' it real.

[Alysser]

My Dad is a good person, he just has some "issues" I will never understand.

He has taught me everything I know, my love for the outdoors, a passion for a career, etc etc etc. He always does things with me and FOR me. He taught me the values I am instilled and hell I look JUST like him. But some things I do not get. He's a republican, I'm an independent. He has issues with other people, and socially, and will always get nasty before anything else. But then again I am socially awkward and have temper issues at times. But my Dad would probably say something like this too.

Anyway, the beauty of it is, you are NOT defined by who your parents are. You don't have to be anything like them, and Cindy, you can pride yourself in that. Now there are still cons, you can't pick your family. You just have to deal with them a few times out of the year, or maybe a little more.

Regardless of any issues I have with my parents, I know overall we aren't going to see eye-to-eye on everything and that's fine. We are afterall, only human, and we are all different. Sometimes the reason we don't get along with people is because we've either been around them for too long or maybe because we are exactly like them we just don't see it. I am not saying that's the case here, but I have seen that from time to time. My sister and my mother for example. My mom says I am exactly like my Dad, but I don't see it.

I am glad after that bad interaction you had a good one today! But I can see what a frustrating conversation that must have been. I feel like parents are more inclined to try to get the last word in, eve if they make no sense and sound stupid.

[Taz_Zoee]

While I know family is blood and all, I have a mother with narcissistic personality disorder. Sometimes you need to cut people out of your life. Even your own mom. That is hard but not impossible. It can save your health and your sanity. Well, I'm always kinda teetering on the brink

It is impossible to cut him out of my life. He lives with my mother and right next door to my brother. I don't want to cut him out, I just wish he wasn't so mean. He doesn't even realize that he's being that way. Or maybe he does and doesn't care.

My Dad is a good person, he just has some "issues" I will never understand.

He has taught me everything I know, my love for the outdoors, a passion for a career, etc etc etc. He always does things with me and FOR me. He taught me the values I am instilled and hell I look JUST like him. But some things I do not get. He's a republican, I'm an independent. He has issues with other people, and socially, and will always get nasty before anything else. But then again I am socially awkward and have temper issues at times. But my Dad would probably say something like this too.

Anyway, the beauty of it is, you are NOT defined by who your parents are. You don't have to be anything like them, and Cindy, you can pride yourself in that. Now there are still cons, you can't pick your family. You just have to deal with them a few times out of the year, or maybe a little more.

Regardless of any issues I have with my parents, I know overall we aren't going to see eye-to-eye on everything and that's fine. We are afterall, only human, and we are all different. Sometimes the reason we don't get along with people is because we've either been around them for too long or maybe because we are exactly like them we just don't see it. I am not saying that's the case here, but I have seen that from time to time. My sister and my mother for example. My mom says I am exactly like my Dad, but I don't see it.

I am glad after that bad interaction you had a good one today! But I can see what a frustrating conversation that must have been. I feel like parents are more inclined to try to get the last word in, eve if they make no sense and sound stupid.

Sometimes my brother will do something and I'll say "ok, Dad!" He hates it when I say that. I even say that to Bruce sometimes, but usually he did something on purpose just to get to me.
And I do have some traits from my dad. But I like to think I have his good traits (besides the super fine hair and no butt!), which I can't think of one at the moment.

And as I said, I do love him.........he is my dad and nothing or nobody can change that.