Cat acting differently.

[mon]

You are so correct, it is fear based for sure. I don't have a basement, and I know of no barns around here. I'm pretty sure she was abused by some @#$ hole somewhere in the past and I shall take a deep breath, mellow out and simply keep her in her room until spring.... or something like that. I'm pretty sure Mia has PTSD now. I know my husband and I do

[mon]

She is spayed as well.

[mon]

That won't work. My husband works out in there 3 times a week and she has to go somewhere else as this scares her very much. I'm hooped

[mon]

It's a hopeless sitchy man and I'm just gonna have to face it. Unless we move and that's not an option. I wish I was back in Mexico. I give up

[mon]

I have made a decision. This evening or tommorrow, I will take Spicy to a no kill shelter and give them some loot and call it a day. I hope ya'll don't think less of me for this but I am done. My spouse is done. Mia is done, and I am done. I love peace, it's what I love the most, this will never be a peaceful household as long as Spicy lives here. I love her, I WILL miss her. We just cannot cope with her behavior any longer Gonna kill me man)

[mon]

Changed my mind. I am keeping Spicy come hell or high water. Ol' mans on board with that too. Thanks for listening peeps!!

[mon]

I know now that Spicy is deaf. She is doing well in her room, has an excellent appetite. Now that I figured that out, on top of the fact that she is solitary and seclusion is actually not cruel, but a gift and a given I am sure we can all co-exist and love one another. On Spicys terms of course. It should have been obvious that she was deaf. It sure wasn't. She had ear mites twice and we took her to the vet and got all her meds, and once they went away, never occurred to me she would go deaf. Guess they did a lotta damage. The vet never told me that she would be deaf, but I guess he thought that was an obvious given. I love her. She is warm and safe and sound.

[Jessika]

I'm pretty sure she was abused by some @#$ hole somewhere in the past and I shall take a deep breath, mellow out and simply keep her in her room until spring.... or something like that.

Feral cats aren't abused; they are just not socialized, not used to being around people or other pets (other animals they encounter outdoors are usually trying to harm them), and are certainly not used to being indoors with the smells, sights, and sounds of what goes on indoors. Not to say someone didn't pick on her while she was out, but that generally is not why they behave that way.

I am very happy to know you've made the decision to keep her, "hell or high water". She doesn't know it yet, but she will thank you as well You do have a looooong road ahead of you, however. Since she was a feral, has she ever seen a vet or been tested for FeLV/FIV? You mentioned she was spayed, so I'm sure they tested her at that time. If she was outdoors for any length of time with unknown whereabouts, it would be very wise to test her again. You have another kitty in the house to think about, especially if she reacts violently to your other cat.

I'm curious however as to how you came to the conclusion that she is deaf?

[phesina]

Dear mon, so glad to learn you are going to keep Spicy and figure what to do so things will work out between all. Definitely have her checked out by the vet, get her tested again and also have the deafness looked into.

All the best!

Pat (and 6 cats)

[mon]

She was sound asleep and I got 9" from her head and I clapped my hands as loud as humanly possible. She did not bat an eyelash.

[mon]

It's quite sad in away, I have been talking to her for years under the delusion that she was listening.

[mon]

The only reason she had to go in lockdown was because of the snow, her age, whatever that is, and the fact that there are 6 hungry raccoons in my back yard. Bad combination me thinks.

[mon]

I believe some feral cat's have been abused as well by the way. I have not met every single feral cat in the whole wide world, but however, I fear that as we all know, there are some very unfortunat exceptions.

[maid25cats]

Hello mon
I dont know if you did any research but if you type in
How to deal with a deaf feral cat.
There is a lot of info out there this is just one site.
The Cat Advisor: Socializing Stray, Deaf Cat
catadvisor.blogspot.com/2011/04/socializing-stray-deaf-cat.html

Good Luck and I hope you can find some info on one of these sites
to help you AND Spicy better communicate with each other