This is what I see, based on what you have posted here over a period of time.

You aren't scared of a commitment, but afraid of being hurt if a commitment fails. For example - you and your guy are "an item" for a period of time and all seems well - then he decides that he wants out, but you don't and you never saw it coming. It happens all the time, and most people experience it at least once (and probably more), before you find the one that works. Follow your instincts and don't be influenced by what your friends are or aren't doing. Take it slow and don't rush into anything, even if it seems right, and if you find someone that you like and have fun with and share like interests, then why not give it a chance? You have your whole life ahead of you and you will meet many nice guys - certainly there will be some that you will click with. If you hesitate even tho it seems right, then some other gal is going to grab him, and you will never know, and you will wonder - "what if"??


ETA: Seems that Barbara and I think alike. And yes Alysser - I have grandkids older than you are.