Management issues

[cassiesmom]

Write everything down, include details, like who else was -present when he was throwing his tantrum. Then tell your boss that things happened, but everything was smoothed out, and give him the document if he wants more details. You want a record of this in case worse happens next time.

Agree agree agree. You want a record in case a trend starts to develop, if you see patterns of tactics like the dress code thing.

[Taz_Zoee]

I also agree with Karen. I was thinking to just make a statement like "well, so-and-so was being his normal self", since you said your manager knows how this guy is. And then if your manager asks for more details give them what you wrote down.

Good luck! This guy should not get away with treating you like this. You are, afterall, the assistant manager. You are in management, and all employees should respect that. They don't have to like it, but they should respect it.

[Laura's Babies]

To bad there aren't video cameras in there (for security purpose, of coarse)..

I use to use write ups when I was in management. It covers your own butt and for some reason, seeing it in writting, even though I had said it to them a dozen times, seeing it in writting shines a whole new light on it and they GOT IT THEN!

I caution you as to what you allow him to do or he'll only get worse.

Your boss needs to let everyone know that HE backs YOU up and that alone gives you power! My boss respected me and backed me up 100% no matter what! I hope you have that kind of boss...

[Freedom]

Yep, dates, times, who else was present and saw, write it all, keep a copy for yourself, let the boss know things happened, you got it sorted, he can read the details if he wants.

CYA - cover your ass

[sasvermont]

Well, I think talking to your boss about the details would be a complete waste of time. He knows what this guy is like and that he didn't promote him (probably for those same reasons) so all you would tell him would be nothing new. I would just say that it was "trying" at times but you handled it and if he wants details, then go for it and give him the details. I suspect he knows exactly what he'll hear. If this idiot's (co-worker) behavior was something new, then it would be an entirely different situation.

That's my opinion but it doesn't make me right.

[catnapper]

Well, first thing this morning, the guy pulled me aside and appologised for his behavior yesterday. He said it was a huge overreaction and he was out of line. I agreed and accepted his appology and told him I am not tolerating his behavior.

The boss called and asked what I wanted to talk about. I told him that we had an issue yesterday and everything is 100% ok today. I'm sure he'll ask more later, in which case I'll say You-know-who was just being his normal self. The boss guy will laugh.

[Taz_Zoee]

Well, first thing this morning, the guy pulled me aside and appologised for his behavior yesterday. He said it was a huge overreaction and he was out of line. I agreed and accepted his appology and told him I am not tolerating his behavior.

The boss called and asked what I wanted to talk about. I told him that we had an issue yesterday and everything is 100% ok today. I'm sure he'll ask more later, in which case I'll say You-know-who was just being his normal self. The boss guy will laugh.

Wow, that's good that he apologized. But I still think you should document everything for yourself. You don't need to give it you your manager.........yet. But if something comes up down the road you'll have details of this encounter. You can also document that he did apologize for his behavior the next day.

[Randi]

First, congratulations on your promotion! I like this the best: "there was some tension (without saying who) and that we worked through it." Do take notes of what has been going on, though. The key is to keep calm, although I think it must be very difficult.

Good luck!