Need opinions

[lizbud]

It doesn't sounds like she's accusing you to me, I'd send her another message saying you know she's very busy and everything, is there some time you could meet up for a cup of tea? And then you could bring it up, and see what she says. If she had said "When you were cat-sitting, my mom's jewelry went missing" THAT might sound like an accusation. But it sounds to me like maybe that JUSt happened when she sent you the note, so that's what was on her mind at the moment, not that it had anything to do with you, but she needed to vent to a friend.

I agree with Karen on this. Sounds like she is pretty stressed by other things right now. I wouldn't take anything she says personally.

[mrspunkysmom]

I agree with Karen on this. Sounds like she is pretty stressed by other things right now. I wouldn't take anything she says personally.

She may also not know who she can trust. That's a bad feeling. And if she has other stressors, it just makes it even harder. It will take her time. She might also feel bad about dumping on you and just isn't ready to deal with the introspection she needs to do.

[lizbud]

She may also not know who she can trust. That's a bad feeling. And if she has other stressors, it just makes it even harder. It will take her time. She might also feel bad about dumping on you and just isn't ready to deal with the introspection she needs to do.

Very true, I agree.

[Asiel]

Your friend Pam is taking the wrong attitude about this. I don't think your friend is accusing you of taking the jewellery, like others have mentioned, she sounds buried under a load of stress right now. Sending her another message and showing your concern, asking if there is anything you can do to help etc...would probably help clear the air and it would also serve to show you have no idea about the missing things.

[kitten645]

The thing I hate most about technology is the human aspect. There's no way to tell from a text, email, tweet or any post what the true meaning is. Nuance is lost. I say pick up the phone and leave her a message asking if you can help. Tell her she sounds stressed and you are sorry about that. There's alot of humanity in hearing a voice.

[gini]

This kept coming up in the back of my mind...........you mentioned that she had moved several months back and your problem has been going on with her for several months as well (or months since she mentioned that the jewelry is missing).

Is it possible that she has the jewelry still packed up in a box and has forgotten - especially as she moved and then was busy looking for a job?

Why in the world would anyone steal jewelry from a good friend? They wouldn't, so I say, stay with her and it will be resolved. She may have to apologize to you.

[moosmom]

I texted her and Brady a Happy Easter. I got Brady a cute little fishing rod with magnetic fishies. She texted back and wished me a happy holiday and said we need to get together soon.

I was wrong. I guess I kind of blew things outta proportion. Kitten645, you're right. It's VERY difficult to read someone's text messages when something like this happens. I can't wait to see them. It's been a while and I miss him a lot.