Rant.

[catland]

couple of thoughts....

I realize I don't know you and your situation very well but a few things pop in to mind....

Are these her pets or yours? If they are yours, then you don't have a right to force her to care for your pets - so as hard as the idea may be, rehoming might be the best plan for one or more of them. Being a young adult, going to school, working, and supporting so many animals might be overdoing it.

There's a book called "Boundries" (sorry, don't know the author), that might be a good book to read.

You're only 19 but have been forced to grow up too quickly becuase of your home life. Don't let your mom drag you down. You can be kind and respectful, but you don't have to get sucked into the drama.

I wish you the very best of luck during this difficult time.

[carole]

Bri i am with catland on this one, and i have to say if they are your animals, and you took them on, then they are your responsibility not your mother's.

You know it could well be your mother has just had enough of responsibility, and wants a complete break from it, i can relate to that myself,you are the same age as my youngest, who is at university , and living at home, i do a lot for my girl, but she does appreciate it.

Sometimes i feel all i ever do is look after everyone and sometimes one likes to feel maybe someone can look after me for a change, maybe your mother feels a bit like that.

I would have to say if she is going through menopause,(you don't say how old your mother is)then for some woman it is extremely difficult time in their life, and everything can just seem to much to deal with.

i have empathy for you both, and i think you have to think about how it is for your mother too,not just yourself,some of her threats are probably just that threats, and her only way of coping.

She could well indeed be suffering from depression,meds are not always the answer,that is just my opinion,you can get through it without it, if it is not too severe.

I think you should just try and be supportive to your mother, understand that life is not that great for her right now, and she probably does not need an extra responsibility right now.

you know mothers and daughters often have rough patches, but in the end she is the person who loves you more than anyone ever will, believe me when you become a mother yourself you will completely understand that.

I wish you both well and hope you can get along better, try seeing things from your mothers perspective ,it might just help...GOOD LUCK...

[dab_20]

Bri, I'm sorry to read of the rough patches you're going through. You are a good person, and of course you love your mom and want to help her.

IMO, however, it's best if you go on your own. I don't think at this age you should be supporting your mother. She's obviously going through a rough patch and it's understandable if you feel like you should support yourself more- but supporting her is going over the line IMO.
It's hard to go to college and support yourself, but in all honesty it is do-able. At 19 we're technically adults and physically able to support ourselves, which may be easier for you to do than what your dealing with living at home. And as horrible it is to think to rehome those animals she is unwilling to care for- it may be the best option, if just temporarily. Have you thought about finding an apartment with friends or in a craigslist type ad for roommates that you could take Brennan with? (When you get a job anyway) If your loans cover the rent and food, and you can care for yourself and Brennan with whatever job you get, this may be worth it.

Good luck to you, Bri, we all care about you!! Your welcome to FB anytime for advice or if you need to talk.

[Roxyluvsme13]

My mom and I are on much better terms with each other and getting along better and not arguing much, if at all.

BUT...

We're kind of getting sued for money. So that's not helping things.

[Karen]

My mom and I are on much better terms with each other and getting along better and not arguing much, if at all.

BUT...

We're kind of getting sued for money. So that's not helping things.

What are you getting sued about, and who is bringing the suit?

[Roxyluvsme13]

What are you getting sued about, and who is bringing the suit?

It's for lot rent for our trailer. We're like 3 months behind on lot rent, so the trailer park is taking us to court over it... They didn't even sent out any notices about it or contact us about it, and we didn't know until this sheriff deputy showed up on our porch today and had my mom and I sign something and gave us a court date (which happens to occur during one of my classes, so how am I supposed to go? )

[Karen]

It's for lot rent for our trailer. We're like 3 months behind on lot rent, so the trailer park is taking us to court over it... They didn't even sent out any notices about it or contact us about it, and we didn't know until this sheriff deputy showed up on our porch today and had my mom and I sign something and gave us a court date (which happens to occur during one of my classes, so how am I supposed to go? )

Is there a contact number for someone you can call to change the date to a time when you can actually be there? Did you know you were even behind?