More dating advice please...

[Karen]

Just talk to him. Tell him the things that bug you, just say "remember, I am a big girl, I don't need reminders when to go to bed! I know you aren't doing it on purpose, but that freaks me out a little." He may have been in a prior relationship with someone more clingy, and needs to know you are uncomfortable with it. Don't make a big deal out of it - every relationship, good or bad, needs an adjustment period, when you are getting to know each other. Just talk to him, he is a fellow human being, okay?

[sparks19]

Just talk to him. Tell him the things that bug you, just say "remember, I am a big girl, I don't need reminders when to go to bed! I know you aren't doing it on purpose, but that freaks me out a little." He may have been in a prior relationship with someone more clingy, and needs to know you are uncomfortable with it. Don't make a big deal out of it - every relationship, good or bad, needs an adjustment period, when you are getting to know each other. Just talk to him, he is a fellow human being, okay?

this.

and I agree with cataholic too.

it's been a week and a half since you've known him. why WOULD you feel a connection already? you don't KNOW him.

I say go on the second date (unless you really just don't want to) and talk about each others likes and dislikes in relationships and life in general. Be honest with him but not hurtful (not that you would be hurtful). A second date isn't a commitment to marriage or anything so why not? But be honest with him about your intentions. don't lead him on. don't make it seem like you have the same feelings he does, tell him how you feel about the whole thing and then go from there.

[carole]

I am thinking if there are things that annoy you now, imagine how much more annoying they will be in time, if you stay together, maybe you should give him a chance, but honestly if i didn't feel any connection, i don't think i would continue to see him, not really fair on him, but then again feelings can develop , only you and YOU alone know how you really feel, is he worth the time, to get to know him properly, or is it kinder and better for you both to just not continue seeing each other, things to ponder on.

P.s depends on what you mean by a connection, i took it as to be attraction, i mean if you don't feel any attraction, then probably not worth pursuing a relationship...

[Nomilynn]

When you know, you know. Only you can really answer these questions for yourself. The guy I'm dating now, we've been together for 5 months. When we first started dating, I really wasn't sure, but he is a really nice guy so I was just honest with him. I told him straight out, I think you are a nice guy and I really like hanging out with you and talking to you, but I'm not sure if I'm really into you yet. He really liked me, so he was willing to be patient. We kept the lines of communication open the whole time, checked in with each other and made sure we knew how each other was feeling. After seeing each other for a couple months, we were able to have a more serious conversation about commitment.

I'm still pretty freaked out about commitment in general, and he's totally ok with it. He even said to me, I get that I'm more into you than you are at me, and for now, I'm ok with that. Basically, the whole point I'm trying to make, is keep talking to him and in time you will know what you need and want to do.

[k9krazee]

One problem I had when I was dating was that I was looking to the future all the time. I remember one first date that I was on and we were talking about where we saw ourselves in ten years. I was kind of offended when his 10 year plan didn't include me...until later I realized that it'd be really weird if it did since we had just met.

You have to remember to live IN the moment and not FOR the moment. Just take it one day at a time. Go on another date. Have fun and if it doesn't lead to anything, no sweat.

When I first met Rich 4.5 years ago I didn't really like him. I was planning a weekend trip with some friends, met Rich and asked him to come with us because he seemed fun enough. I didn't want a relationship, I was terrified of dating and everything that that entails, I didn't want to get close to somebody. We hung out that weekend and continued hanging out pretty regularly. He was waaaaay more into me than I was him, and my friends were telling me if I didn't have any feelings for him I should tell him and we should stop. If you would have told me we'd still be going strong 4.5 years later I would have thought you were crazy. He was exactly the type of person I was trying to avoid - but now I couldn't imagine being with anybody else. It just took me a little longer to realize that.

I'd say go on another date or three, enjoy life, take is slowly and see what happens.

[beeniesmom]

Just take it easy and have fun! No need for comittment after a week and a half!

[Sowa]

Maybe give it time and see. I really believe you will normally find something your SO does that's annoying, but you learn to live with it. I'm sure I do things my BF finds annoying too. I love to be with him so the annoying stuff isn't really that bad. I agree with just taking it slow and having fun. If it doesn't go anywhere, then you will find the right guy later on