I have a dilemna

[pomtzu]

But would she believe an anonymous tip? She just might think someone is trying to start trouble, and disregard it. At least if it came from you, she would know it's not a phony story. I think I would have to risk the friendship for the sake of the girl's safety. Your friend might be angry with you in the beginning, but she'll probably thank you for it later.

[caseysmom]

But would she believe an anonymous tip? She just might think someone is trying to start trouble, and disregard it. At least if it came from you, she would know it's not a phony story. I think I would have to risk the friendship for the sake of the girl's safety. Your friend might be angry with you in the beginning, but she'll probably thank you for it later.

I thought I could print proof out and send that...I know I am a wimp...

[pomtzu]

No - you're not a wimp. I understand where you're coming from, and it's a really delicate subject you're dealing with here.

I guess you could print out whatever you have to back up the story and send it. Make sure you print out a mailing label so she doesn't recognize your handwriting too! And make sure no identifying print as to name or email, prints out on what you send too. Doing that is better than doing nothing - IMO.

[caseysmom]

No - you're not a wimp. I understand where you're coming from, and it's a really delicate subject you're dealing with here.

I guess you could print out whatever you have to back up the story and send it. Make sure you print out a mailing label so she doesn't recognize your handwriting too! And make sure no identifying print as to name or email, prints out on what you send too. Doing that is better than doing nothing - IMO.

I know I thought of all of that she's a pretty girl and she received a 4 year degree at college and of course her parents paid for that...it just disgusts me and makes me sad at the same time.

[pomtzu]

Well good luck.

Yes - it is said. It's a shame that some of these young people can't see past the nose on their face, and live only for today. In cases like this, they are throwing away a good future as well as their (formerly) good name. I hope someone can turn her around before it's too late for her.

[Cataholic]

If I ever found out that my child(regardless of age) was doing something that could potentially harm him, and learned my FRIENDS knew about it and said nothing, THAT would ruin the friendship for me.

Far better to risk ruining a friendship than knowing you might have made a difference in a person's life.

To me, there simply isn't any other option but to go to this woman and tell her what you know. Not what your daughter knows..but what YOU know. You need to make sure your daughter isn't overstating the facts.

[Asiel]

I totally agree with Cataholic---you should get in touch with your friend, face to face would be best. Please don't wait and think about this - we had an almost identical case here a couple of years ago,the mom had been friends with my daughter in high school but they eventually went their own way. What a shock when we heard on the news that this mother's daughter had been found dead in a motel , so far the murder has gone unsolved although there was lots of clues and evidence, just not enough to find anyone guilty - the case is cold but still open. The mother has not had a day of peace since she lost her daughter who was only 19. I don't think she will ever find closure until the guilty party is brought to justice.

[caseysmom]

If I ever found out that my child(regardless of age) was doing something that could potentially harm him, and learned my FRIENDS knew about it and said nothing, THAT would ruin the friendship for me.

Far better to risk ruining a friendship than knowing you might have made a difference in a person's life.

To me, there simply isn't any other option but to go to this woman and tell her what you know. Not what your daughter knows..but what YOU know. You need to make sure your daughter isn't overstating the facts.

Unfortunately I saw her ad with my own eyes with her pics and even reviews, been going on a few years from her reviews....