I have a dilemna

[caseysmom]

I personally think that you should talk to your friend about her daughter. You hear on the news all the time, of these "escorts" taking up with a bad "date", and ending up dead. At least if you speak up, your conscience will be clear. It probably won't change this girl's ways one way or the other, but you can rest easier knowing that at least you didn't turn your head and pretend that you didn't know anything about it.

I think it would ruin our friendship would it be tacky to send something anonymously so she wouldn't have the embarrasement of knowing that I know? I thought I could write something like I am sending this to help your daughter so that you may keep her from danger.

[pomtzu]

But would she believe an anonymous tip? She just might think someone is trying to start trouble, and disregard it. At least if it came from you, she would know it's not a phony story. I think I would have to risk the friendship for the sake of the girl's safety. Your friend might be angry with you in the beginning, but she'll probably thank you for it later.

[caseysmom]

But would she believe an anonymous tip? She just might think someone is trying to start trouble, and disregard it. At least if it came from you, she would know it's not a phony story. I think I would have to risk the friendship for the sake of the girl's safety. Your friend might be angry with you in the beginning, but she'll probably thank you for it later.

I thought I could print proof out and send that...I know I am a wimp...

[pomtzu]

No - you're not a wimp. I understand where you're coming from, and it's a really delicate subject you're dealing with here.

I guess you could print out whatever you have to back up the story and send it. Make sure you print out a mailing label so she doesn't recognize your handwriting too! And make sure no identifying print as to name or email, prints out on what you send too. Doing that is better than doing nothing - IMO.

[caseysmom]

No - you're not a wimp. I understand where you're coming from, and it's a really delicate subject you're dealing with here.

I guess you could print out whatever you have to back up the story and send it. Make sure you print out a mailing label so she doesn't recognize your handwriting too! And make sure no identifying print as to name or email, prints out on what you send too. Doing that is better than doing nothing - IMO.

I know I thought of all of that she's a pretty girl and she received a 4 year degree at college and of course her parents paid for that...it just disgusts me and makes me sad at the same time.

[pomtzu]

Well good luck.

Yes - it is said. It's a shame that some of these young people can't see past the nose on their face, and live only for today. In cases like this, they are throwing away a good future as well as their (formerly) good name. I hope someone can turn her around before it's too late for her.

[Cataholic]

If I ever found out that my child(regardless of age) was doing something that could potentially harm him, and learned my FRIENDS knew about it and said nothing, THAT would ruin the friendship for me.

Far better to risk ruining a friendship than knowing you might have made a difference in a person's life.

To me, there simply isn't any other option but to go to this woman and tell her what you know. Not what your daughter knows..but what YOU know. You need to make sure your daughter isn't overstating the facts.