Weighty topic

[Randi]

I'm certainly not an expert on weight loss, but I think that eating a good healthy breakfast would be a good way of starting to lose weight. How about making porridge with half milk half water, every morning - put a bit of dried fruit in, like cranberries, that will make it a little more interesting. Also, rye bread is a good start of the day - with a slice of cheddar (perhaps you can even bake your own). Home baked rye bread is delicious, I swear! These foods are filling and you simply won't get the urge to eat, until lunch!

I have a cousin who was married to an extremely overweight man, he know he had a problem, but just wouldn't stop eating junk food. She woke up one morning and found him dead next to her. I hope it won't happen to you!

Good luck!

Btw, have you watched any of Jamie Olivers TV shows?

[pomtzu]

It all boils down to one thing with your hubby - he has to want to do this - and stashing Cokes doesn't look like he's all too serious about it at this stage of the game. But he's a grown man, and you can't regulate what he consumes, like you can with a child. No amount of begging, pleading, reasoning, threatening, nagging or insulting (as his father does - so cruel and counterproductive!) is going to get thru to him, and probably makes him even less receptive to what he knows he should do. I suppose the only thing you can do is try to be supportive, and hope that light goes on in his head, sooner than later. I'd certainly avoid his toxic family environment like the plague too. If he can't (or won't) lose the weight, then he can't even have the surgery, so it's a vicious circle that he's running. Just out of curiosity and if you want to answer (tho don't feel obligated), is there a reason why he would be having gastric bypass rather than lap band?

And as for you, Catnapper, continue with your own quest to lose weight. I Know it's not an easy road since I have been there - I wasn't always slim. Keep eating healthy and keep moving, and I hope you reach your goal. Just maybe it will inspire hubby somewhat too.

[Catty1]

It's like living with an active alcoholic - they are killing themselves, yet they are the only one that can decide to recover.

I spent about a dozen years in Overeaters Anonymous. You might want to look it up and show hubby the 10 questions or however many there are. Your hubby is as puzzled and hurt as anyone as to why he can't stop. You might look for a therapist that deals with Adult Children issues, since he grew up in an dysfunctional home, or look up a group in your area.

It is what's eating him, not what he's eating. The food is only a symptom.

HUGS and best of luck to your hubby!

[Scooter's Mom]

I am sorry my reply didn't seem supportive. I did not intend to tell you how to make him lose weight. I just shared that with me, nothing worked until I had to and I was ready. Grant may be the same way. Again, sorry if I sounded preachy.

[carole]

I do believe a person will only loose weight when they are ready to do it, you can't make them,and it is a very hard thing to do, as we have to eat and food is always around us.
My friend just had a fairly new procedure, the gastric sleeve, you may want to look in to that, it is supposed to be safer and better than a bypass, so far she is doing well, i cannot wait to see her ,by the time i do, i bet i won't recognise her.

You really do have my utmost understanding and empathy and i wish you both well in your efforts.

[Cataholic]

Catnapper- You have helped to motivate me. I hope you will find some comfort in knowing YOUR ability/desire to talk about this 'out loud', has motivated at least one person to do something.

Cataholic