WOW I am a bit amazed at the responses. Here you have made it clear weight is a sore spot with your husband, and everyone is suggesting how YOU can get him to start losing. NO WAY JOSE!

You can only change you and set the example. He has to want to change. I don't know what type of therapy both of you are in (and no I don't want to know). Hubby needs to decide for himself he has a problem and has to address it. At his weight, a good first step for him, when he is ready, is a therapist who works with this sort of issue; there is an underlying cause making him have such low self esteem, and having to console himself with food. Once he works on that the weight becomes secondary and will slowly SLOWLY come off.

I am currently over weight. Two years back at my annual physical my doctor told me I needed to address this and offered an appt with a nutritionist. I clearly remember telling her, "I know this is a problem, but I'm just not ready to deal with it." Last Fall, for reasons I can't even explain, I was ready. No I didn't go to the nutritionist; I've started exercising, and lost 13 pounds. Not earth shattering, but I'm on the way.

I say this to explain that I do have some idea what I'm talking about; and it is only going to further stress your marital relationship for you to constantly bring it up, suggest things for him to do and such. He is not ready. YOU can do things, YOU can try things, YOU can explore this option or that, all FOR YOU. But now, I think he knows quite well that his weight worries you.

Good for you to be working on your issue and making progress. Keep it up!